tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2078717285834737415.post8862948608678359980..comments2022-03-23T16:12:17.946-05:00Comments on Courageous Journey: Dating Questions: When in the relationship is it okay to refer to the person with endearments?The Misty Journeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05629053115624391008noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2078717285834737415.post-17959442413751005982014-06-02T21:26:23.698-05:002014-06-02T21:26:23.698-05:00dude! i use 'dude' with my bff's, or f...dude! i use 'dude' with my bff's, or friends i don't have to be 'on' with. if a guy is so hung up on things like that, then it might be a red flag. sense of casual humor is fine in my book. so many minefields in dating. on the other hand, when the guy at the store calls me 'babe' or whatever, then that's kind of bordering on the insincere and over-famiilar. context is everything. until the 'conversation' where you are actually discussing 'are we dating? are we exclusive?' comes along, then casual words are fine in my opinion. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06796971468512566182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2078717285834737415.post-502581837730333982014-05-28T22:11:58.937-05:002014-05-28T22:11:58.937-05:00When Nathan and I were dating, we used the term &q...When Nathan and I were dating, we used the term "friend" often. It wasn't until we were very serious that he began to call me "sweetheart," etc. I had also spent some time before meeting Nathan with another guy who always just called me "girl," as well as another guy who just used my name. I think this really differs depending on the person, and there is no right or wrong answer. <br /><br />It seems like in the dating or "getting to know each other world", there are times when one person is ready to move to the "next step," so to speak, sooner than the other person. This is where there can be a real test of that person's character and sensitivity and care for you. If they can't accept where you are at and what you are comfortable with kindly and graciously, than I personally would feel hesitation. I've found it can help to clarify what you mean or what you're feeling beforehand - "Your really special to me, and when I call you 'friend' I hope you know that," etc. If they CAN accept where you're at but honestly just wanted to share how certain responses feel to them, personally, that can be a good thing. As long as it doesn't lead to conflict, sharing thoughts like "When you say, I feel..." in a non-accusing way can help you grow closer in friendship or a relationship - even though those moments of honesty can be oh-so-uncomfortable. Either way, keep on keepin' on! I know you can do this! The dating world is confusing for ANYONE at ANY age, and there is always so much to figure out.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07997019932196396748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2078717285834737415.post-1928332705941003542014-05-28T20:43:55.850-05:002014-05-28T20:43:55.850-05:00LOVE you too Debbie!LOVE you too Debbie!The Misty Journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05629053115624391008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2078717285834737415.post-6497786272862033052014-05-28T20:43:31.453-05:002014-05-28T20:43:31.453-05:00Thanks for the thoughts "dude"! Absolut...Thanks for the thoughts "dude"! Absolutely LOVE all the input in my life.The Misty Journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05629053115624391008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2078717285834737415.post-41327513127454308012014-05-28T20:34:37.250-05:002014-05-28T20:34:37.250-05:00Misty!!!. I love this article. You mentioned that ...Misty!!!. I love this article. You mentioned that you may have learned the lesson. I hope that doesn't mean that you will stop using those terms. My advise is that you just found the wrong guy. Clearly you are going to need to be with a guy that is game for some happy connected energy. I personally would not have felt that you were pushing me away but would have really liked those terms. Not all guys are the same. I will agree that there has to be trust built before they can be used... so maybe by the 4th or 5th date? Then you know that there is reason to go on and more of you comes out. Gotta be yourself, Girl. Never doubt that you're the best. Then... He won't either. I dated a girl that called me "Dude". Weird at first but it really grew on me. Found that I liked everything that she was and then things made more sense. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06407139486575746848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2078717285834737415.post-15026742053256789452014-05-28T10:05:46.247-05:002014-05-28T10:05:46.247-05:00You have such a tender heart, Misty! That will go...You have such a tender heart, Misty! That will go a long long way in any relationship and especially in this time of dating!! Love you, Chica !!!debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05937518857684192232noreply@blogger.com