There are 2 sides to every story:
When you want to understand you will ask questions. When you want to judge and make assumptions, you won't ask questions.
When you desire the truth, you will seek to find it.
When you want to live in peace, you will do everything to create healing, love and a connection. When you want to live in anger, you will attack, blame, resent and create disconnection.
When you want to know what was said or done, by all participants, then and only then can create a clear perspective of reality.