Wednesday, February 20, 2013

434 area code calls

I got two calls in the middle of the night last night from a number with a 434 area code.  No messages were left.  I knew the area code was from Virginia and wondered if it was Mindy, but since I haven't had her phone number for over two years, I wasn't sure.  Whomever it was, I wasn't sure why they would think I was up at 11:56pmCST and 12:59amCST, but either way, I was dead asleep.  Wednesday Morning I called the number back and it was Mindy.  She wanted to know if I had talked to family the day before.  I aknowledged I had.  She stated then she assumed I knew about Granma Omi and the reason she was calling was to let me know so that I wouldn't hear as she heard through someone who heard through someone who heard through someone.  She stated that she was upset that I hadn't called her.  I explained that I didn't have her number to be able to do so.  She then got even more angry at stated that she felt I needed to apologize for blocking her number.  I told her I didn't block her number.  You have to pay for that service and I would have to have her number to block it.  She said she is tired of people walking in and out of her life.  She continued to spill her anger for 4 minutes and 20 seconds and then she hung up on me.

I left the conversation with questions as to what I could have said to make more peace.  She obviously was hurting and frustrated.  She obviously had a bunch of pent up anger.  My heart ached for her. 

An hour later I attempted to call her back.  I got a message that this persons voicemail was not setup yet.  So I decided to text her.

"I am sorry you are angry at me.  I wish I had had your phone number so that I could have let you know.  I have tried to respect your wishes and not communicate with you.  Per your last FB message you clearly wanted nothing to do with me or the family and so it makes it really hard on us.  I love you and wish I could resolve this.  I tried to call you to tell you this but your VM is not set up so I couldn't.  I am sorry I was sleepingwhen you called in th emiddle of the night last night.  I didn't konw who it was and therefore called you back today.  I will continue to pray for you that you will be willing to make peace and not be angry.  I love you more than you know.  FYI you can't block phone numbers that are not in yoru phoneand you can't block phone numbers unless you pay for that.  I never have.  You can either believe me or not. Its your choice.  I wish I could do something to make you understand.  I wish you would not be angry."

She called me later in the day.  We talked 14 minutes and 45 seconds.  The conversation was much like the first one but with even greater anger and profanity.  I tried hard to be kind, was calm and just told her that I knew she was hurting and I was sorry.  In the end, she hung up on me again.

I was frustrated.  I felt like I had had a second chance to try and create a peace in her, but I got nowhere.  I was the wrong person in eveything.

A few minutes later, she called me back.  This time, I knew I couldn't answer.  And I didn't answer it. Instead, I sent her a text message:
I am not gonna take calls when you just argue and hang up.  I am sorry but I don't play these games. 

To which she responded:
You csn stop texting me.
I'm deleting everything you wrote.  Bye!!!

This left me feeling that the Memorial was going to be a really hard day when I saw her.  All I could do was pray.  Lord, please be with me, help me to have wisdom, help me to show kindness, help me to know what to do and say.

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